Archive | April 2013

A Reading, Simplified

Today I did a reading for my daughter.

My daughter is five.

She had just woken up for the day and was sitting beside me, on my floor as I threw some cards for the other readings I had scheduled for the day.

She asked me if I would do one for her, how could I refuse?

I selected Doreen Virtue’s “Saints & Angels” Oracle Cards, and selected the 3-card spread.

The results were SO specific, and well, “cute,” for lack of a better term, that I knew a blog was in order.

In her “past” position, (the first card on the left) we drew “Sleep.”  (A pretty, sleeping angel is shown on the card.)

She had just gotten up moments earlier, and was still in her little Monster High night shirt, sleepily rubbing her eyes.  (Yeah, we like Monster High.)

In her “present” position, (the middle card) we got “Mother.”

This card was depicted as Mary, Mother of Jesus, but at that present moment, my own little angel was with ME – her mother!

In her “future” position, she got “Animals,” as depicted by St. Francis Assisi.

Her first chore of the day is typically to feed the dog.

I realize that this reading was very “basic” but this is truly how simple and easy readings really ought to be.  It wasn’t anything overly illuminating, nor any crazy discoveries, made.

It was simply a nice way to start the day with my little one, and a fun reminder to her that the dog was waiting patiently for breakfast.

 

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The Path of the Empath ~ Vol. 2

This is the second installment in a personal series I am writing about being an empath.  (Here is a link to my first post:  The Path of the Empath ~ Vol. 1.)  The term “empath” keeps cropping up more and more, and I believe that’s because there are many of us recognizing this trait within ourselves.

It is my hope that these posts will help those who have come to know that they are empaths, realize that they are NOT broken or damaged, but rather a very important group of people.  It is not unusual for empaths to feel alone or ostracized, so I also hope that these posts can help unite empaths, and inspire a sense of community and camaraderie.

To kick this second posting off properly, let’s define “empath”:
Via Wikipedia –
“An empath is a person who has an acute or highly developed sense of empathy. In the paranormal and in some works of science fiction and fantasy, highly developed empathy is a paranormal or psychic ability to sense the emotions of others. It is distinguished from telepathy, which allows one to perceive thoughts as well. Occasionally empaths are also able to project their own emotions, or to affect the emotions of others.”  

If you are curious as to whether or not YOU are an empath, here is an awesome test.  I have known for quite some time that I am an empath, but for fun, I took the test.  I scored 76 out of 80, which resulted in a “You are definitely an empath” distinction.

Fun online quizzes aside, being an empath isn’t always easy.  In fact, if you are not grounded spiritually, 100% of the time, it can be a slippery slope to walk.  An empath MUST learn how to set healthy boundaries and “guard their sensitivity.”

I obviously know this, but even so, I started getting a little careless a few months back.  As a Life Coach, it’s easy for me to “preach” to others about their spirituality, and setting boundaries, but it is sometimes hard to follow that advice myself.  I fell victim to countless “energy vampires“, thinking that I was helping them by somehow being available to them whenever they determined they needed me.  This wasn’t just happening to me, it was happening to my empathic husband, as well.  We started getting run down.  My husband,who has a chronic health condition, started becoming ill again.  I was growing depressed, and allowing any and all negative situations – including sad or upsetting news stories – deeply disturb me.  Our daughter, who is the epitome of a Crystal Child was being adversely effected, as well.  In just a few short months, our small family unit had begun to completely fall apart.

Without going into too much detail, I will admit that I believe I experienced a complete nervous breakdown.  This was mid-January of this year.  In all truthfulness, it took until about mid-March for me to start feeling “normal” (whatever that is) again.  Actually, I didn’t just start to feel normal…I started to feel HAPPY!  100% happy!  A happy like I had not known in quite some time.  A beautiful, foreign feeling, to say the least!  And had it not been for that breakdown, I might have never been put in a situation where I was FORCED to receive help.

That’s right.  Professional help.  And I’m not ashamed to say that.  Five weeks in an Intensive Outpatient Program and ongoing counseling, and no, I’m not “weak” for resigning myself to such.  I’m more in touch with my spirituality than ever before, and am also a much more “protected” empath.

What do I mean by “protected”?

I mean I am learning – or re-learning, rather – how to set healthy boundaries.  This is important to ALL people, yes, but particularly important to empaths.  An empath literally feels and “gives” too much, and without boundaries, you are on the fast track to a breakdown, yourself.

You can still HELP people even when you set a boundary.

You can still FEEL.  An empath would absolutely hate to lose their ability to feel, even though, it is that ability that can be their biggest downfall.

One thing that I had a terrible tendency to do was start manifesting sickness or pain within myself when I started lamenting sickness or pain in others.  A VERY useful (and simple) tool I learned to employ when I would start feeling this way, was to remind myself that I cannot get sick enough to take away the sickness of the world.  I cannot become poor enough to take away poverty from the world.  I cannot feel pain enough to take pain away from the living creatures of this world.  

I tell this to myself almost daily, when I feel those old tendencies coming on, again.  And it works!  But it’s taken a lot of effort to arrive at this point.

If you suspect that you are an empath, one of the best things you can do is learn, or remind yourself how to set healthy boundaries.  Don’t be afraid to say “NO” to people – very often, empaths are “people pleasers.”

Lastly, one of the best things an empath can do for themselves, is to guard their sensitivity.  You are NOT a “crybaby” or a “basket case.”  You are a beautiful, healing soul that has an enlarged capacity to feel!  Don’t let anyone try to make you think that this is a bad thing!  Guard it, protect it, and appreciate it.  You were given this amazing gift.  It’s not enough to to celebrate that gift – you must protect that gift, as well.

Note:  If you have made a habit out of reading my blogs, you may have observed that I openly discuss many of the trials I have gone through in my life.  It is not uncommon for Indigo Children – another topic I regularly post about – to experience many of these issues.  If you are curious about Indigo Children, here is a helpful link.  

Thank you for reading!  

More Info on Readings and Other Services…

For those interested in purchasing readings/services from me, but don’t have a lot of cash to spend, check me out at Fiverr.Com!  I offer a handful of services, all for the bargain price of $5.00, each!

THIS link will take you directly to my page.

These are all FULL services, not samples or scaled down versions of regular services.  I put as much effort into $5.00 sessions as I do $50.00 sessions.

Still unsure?  Here are some reviews from past readings, both via my Fiverr account and direct readings:

From Ingrid.
Usually I feel a little creepy and dark after tarot…this made me feel uplifted.

From Misty S.
A few days ago I had the opportunity of being read by Layla. We’re on each others facebook and I saw that she was offering some services. I approached her and asked her to give me the reading of her preference. Once she selected Tarot, I picked the kind of deck I wanted her to use – I picked traditional cards for anyone that cares.

Anyway, once I knew she was preparing, I really tried to center my energy and tried to exude a radiant field that she would be able to pick up on. And I believe that happened pretty successfully when it came to the cards that she was drawn to. I knew some things that I wanted some insight on, so I focused on those things as well as the general mood of the present time in my life. When she gave me her report, the meaning & position of the cards definitely resounded with things I could relate to. Long story short, when she interpreted the past, present, and future cards, it was as if the only things she was missing were the specific things that only I knew – she was able to give me input on things that spanned over my lifetime (as well as how I perceive my future) that were obviously very specific to me without even knowing exactly how.

I very much like being read with Tarot cards, and this was probably the best of the half dozen or so times in my life as far as specificity. Plus, it was definitely at a time when I really needed to be reminded that my mind was, in fact, in the right place and that I was moving forward at the right pace. I see Tarot and things of this nature to be another variation of horoscopes, etc. – only when you ask an experienced person to help you, it makes it so much more fun and personalized. This was definitely not a waste of time, and I highly recommend Layla personally.

From Julia R.
“Layla’s intuitive gifts are keen and right on the money! Her ability to get in touch with the essence of the person and situation at hand make her the perfect medium! As a returning client, I’ve benefited from fear releases, life coaching, and card reading immensely. My last card reading was exactly what I needed. She explained to me where I was in my life, when I myself, didn’t have the words for it yet. By her helping me to understand my feelings and the card spread, I understood what I needed to do to resolve an issue, that I didn’t even know I was carrying. It was amazingly accurate but most of all healing!”

From Shelly A.
I had an amazing Angel Tarot reading with Layla, and I look forward to more. I highly recommend her!

From John G. (“Karma Cleanse” at Fiverr)
Highly recommended. I appreciated all the insight.”

If you are unable to pay, but still believe that you would benefit from a reading, don’t fret!  I will be holding a drawing for one F R E E monthly reading for regular readers of this blog.  Simply email me at laylabeth@thezenmother.com for more details and to be entered.

Blessings!