The Path of the Empath ~ Vol. 2

This is the second installment in a personal series I am writing about being an empath.  (Here is a link to my first post:  The Path of the Empath ~ Vol. 1.)  The term “empath” keeps cropping up more and more, and I believe that’s because there are many of us recognizing this trait within ourselves.

It is my hope that these posts will help those who have come to know that they are empaths, realize that they are NOT broken or damaged, but rather a very important group of people.  It is not unusual for empaths to feel alone or ostracized, so I also hope that these posts can help unite empaths, and inspire a sense of community and camaraderie.

To kick this second posting off properly, let’s define “empath”:
Via Wikipedia –
“An empath is a person who has an acute or highly developed sense of empathy. In the paranormal and in some works of science fiction and fantasy, highly developed empathy is a paranormal or psychic ability to sense the emotions of others. It is distinguished from telepathy, which allows one to perceive thoughts as well. Occasionally empaths are also able to project their own emotions, or to affect the emotions of others.”  

If you are curious as to whether or not YOU are an empath, here is an awesome test.  I have known for quite some time that I am an empath, but for fun, I took the test.  I scored 76 out of 80, which resulted in a “You are definitely an empath” distinction.

Fun online quizzes aside, being an empath isn’t always easy.  In fact, if you are not grounded spiritually, 100% of the time, it can be a slippery slope to walk.  An empath MUST learn how to set healthy boundaries and “guard their sensitivity.”

I obviously know this, but even so, I started getting a little careless a few months back.  As a Life Coach, it’s easy for me to “preach” to others about their spirituality, and setting boundaries, but it is sometimes hard to follow that advice myself.  I fell victim to countless “energy vampires“, thinking that I was helping them by somehow being available to them whenever they determined they needed me.  This wasn’t just happening to me, it was happening to my empathic husband, as well.  We started getting run down.  My husband,who has a chronic health condition, started becoming ill again.  I was growing depressed, and allowing any and all negative situations – including sad or upsetting news stories – deeply disturb me.  Our daughter, who is the epitome of a Crystal Child was being adversely effected, as well.  In just a few short months, our small family unit had begun to completely fall apart.

Without going into too much detail, I will admit that I believe I experienced a complete nervous breakdown.  This was mid-January of this year.  In all truthfulness, it took until about mid-March for me to start feeling “normal” (whatever that is) again.  Actually, I didn’t just start to feel normal…I started to feel HAPPY!  100% happy!  A happy like I had not known in quite some time.  A beautiful, foreign feeling, to say the least!  And had it not been for that breakdown, I might have never been put in a situation where I was FORCED to receive help.

That’s right.  Professional help.  And I’m not ashamed to say that.  Five weeks in an Intensive Outpatient Program and ongoing counseling, and no, I’m not “weak” for resigning myself to such.  I’m more in touch with my spirituality than ever before, and am also a much more “protected” empath.

What do I mean by “protected”?

I mean I am learning – or re-learning, rather – how to set healthy boundaries.  This is important to ALL people, yes, but particularly important to empaths.  An empath literally feels and “gives” too much, and without boundaries, you are on the fast track to a breakdown, yourself.

You can still HELP people even when you set a boundary.

You can still FEEL.  An empath would absolutely hate to lose their ability to feel, even though, it is that ability that can be their biggest downfall.

One thing that I had a terrible tendency to do was start manifesting sickness or pain within myself when I started lamenting sickness or pain in others.  A VERY useful (and simple) tool I learned to employ when I would start feeling this way, was to remind myself that I cannot get sick enough to take away the sickness of the world.  I cannot become poor enough to take away poverty from the world.  I cannot feel pain enough to take pain away from the living creatures of this world.  

I tell this to myself almost daily, when I feel those old tendencies coming on, again.  And it works!  But it’s taken a lot of effort to arrive at this point.

If you suspect that you are an empath, one of the best things you can do is learn, or remind yourself how to set healthy boundaries.  Don’t be afraid to say “NO” to people – very often, empaths are “people pleasers.”

Lastly, one of the best things an empath can do for themselves, is to guard their sensitivity.  You are NOT a “crybaby” or a “basket case.”  You are a beautiful, healing soul that has an enlarged capacity to feel!  Don’t let anyone try to make you think that this is a bad thing!  Guard it, protect it, and appreciate it.  You were given this amazing gift.  It’s not enough to to celebrate that gift – you must protect that gift, as well.

Note:  If you have made a habit out of reading my blogs, you may have observed that I openly discuss many of the trials I have gone through in my life.  It is not uncommon for Indigo Children – another topic I regularly post about – to experience many of these issues.  If you are curious about Indigo Children, here is a helpful link.  

Thank you for reading!  

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For those interested in purchasing readings/services from me, but don’t have a lot of cash to spend, check me out at Fiverr.Com!  I offer a handful of services, all for the bargain price of $5.00, each!

THIS link will take you directly to my page.

These are all FULL services, not samples or scaled down versions of regular services.  I put as much effort into $5.00 sessions as I do $50.00 sessions.

Still unsure?  Here are some reviews from past readings, both via my Fiverr account and direct readings:

From Ingrid.
Usually I feel a little creepy and dark after tarot…this made me feel uplifted.

From Misty S.
A few days ago I had the opportunity of being read by Layla. We’re on each others facebook and I saw that she was offering some services. I approached her and asked her to give me the reading of her preference. Once she selected Tarot, I picked the kind of deck I wanted her to use – I picked traditional cards for anyone that cares.

Anyway, once I knew she was preparing, I really tried to center my energy and tried to exude a radiant field that she would be able to pick up on. And I believe that happened pretty successfully when it came to the cards that she was drawn to. I knew some things that I wanted some insight on, so I focused on those things as well as the general mood of the present time in my life. When she gave me her report, the meaning & position of the cards definitely resounded with things I could relate to. Long story short, when she interpreted the past, present, and future cards, it was as if the only things she was missing were the specific things that only I knew – she was able to give me input on things that spanned over my lifetime (as well as how I perceive my future) that were obviously very specific to me without even knowing exactly how.

I very much like being read with Tarot cards, and this was probably the best of the half dozen or so times in my life as far as specificity. Plus, it was definitely at a time when I really needed to be reminded that my mind was, in fact, in the right place and that I was moving forward at the right pace. I see Tarot and things of this nature to be another variation of horoscopes, etc. – only when you ask an experienced person to help you, it makes it so much more fun and personalized. This was definitely not a waste of time, and I highly recommend Layla personally.

From Julia R.
“Layla’s intuitive gifts are keen and right on the money! Her ability to get in touch with the essence of the person and situation at hand make her the perfect medium! As a returning client, I’ve benefited from fear releases, life coaching, and card reading immensely. My last card reading was exactly what I needed. She explained to me where I was in my life, when I myself, didn’t have the words for it yet. By her helping me to understand my feelings and the card spread, I understood what I needed to do to resolve an issue, that I didn’t even know I was carrying. It was amazingly accurate but most of all healing!”

From Shelly A.
I had an amazing Angel Tarot reading with Layla, and I look forward to more. I highly recommend her!

From John G. (“Karma Cleanse” at Fiverr)
Highly recommended. I appreciated all the insight.”

If you are unable to pay, but still believe that you would benefit from a reading, don’t fret!  I will be holding a drawing for one F R E E monthly reading for regular readers of this blog.  Simply email me at laylabeth@thezenmother.com for more details and to be entered.

Blessings!

Pick A Card, Any Card!

As you may already know, I recently became a Certified Angel Card Reader, by way of Doreen Virtue‘s Angel Card Reader program.  Prior to my certification, I had become quite the devotee of Doreen’s Messages From Your Angels Oracle Cards.  Over the last year-and-a-half of using this 44-card deck quite faithfully, I jumped at the chance to attend one of Doreen’s in-person certification classes!

While this class focused on her “standard” 78-deck Angel Tarot Cards, she touched on numerous other decks, including my beloved Messages From Your Angels deck.  She even covered how a reader can provide one reading, with several sets of cards, including oracle cards!  I don’t know why, but that took the “sting” out of any lingering fear of Tarot I may have been holding on to.

Now, LET me back up a minute:  That “fear” I speak of was not, at all, based on anything religious.  I never thought Tarot was evil, in spite of hearing as much, as a small girl.  I had dabbled with Tarot over many years, but always got frustrated with it.  I just wasn’t any good at it!  It was simply too complicated.

Still, though, Tarot wanted into my life!  I have procured two decks of classic Tarot cards in my life, and both found their ways into my world under charmed circumstances.  Both times, I just KNEW I’d learn Tarot, once and for all, and both times after a few days or weeks of keeping Tarot on the back burner in my brain, I walked away from the cards, yet again.
(I will say, however, that the times I was committed enough to conduct an actual REAL reading for myself, dedicated to a REAL question, I got prompt and accurate guidance.)  I simply walked away because Tarot was just too intimidating…or so I thought.

Enter Ms. Virtue’s Angel oracle cards…my whole attitude towards card reading shifted dramatically.  The methods for reading seemed less “strict” and not “scary” at all.  (Swords?  Towers?  The HANGED MAN!?”)  I got pretty darn good with these cards and even did readings for friends.  The messages were always compassionate and accurate.  I was hooked!  It’s true that these were “just” Oracle cards…maybe I needed to drop my Tarot-Guard and try the real deal, yet again?

Long-story-short, upon first touch of the Angel Tarot, I was in love!  The cards felt safe, and I loved how Doreen and co-creator, Tarot genius, Radleigh Valentine echoed my previous thoughts about Tarot.  This was the full deck, yet every bit as compassionate and loving as the Angel oracle cards.  I immediately opened my heart to the divine energy of Tarot and, in the course of that class, became 100% unafraid.  I embraced my ability to learn and read Tarot, and haven’t looked back since!

To celebrate this new addition to my Holistic/Spiritual Life Coaching business, I am offering some introductory reading specials!  Some more experienced readers charge hundreds of dollars an hour!  I realize that most people do not have hundreds of dollars lying around, just begging to be given to the next Tarot card reader that passes by, so I am offering services for a much more reasonable price:

3-card Angel Tarot Spread with “Bonus” Angel message reading ~ Results carefully explained and emailed to you.  Text message with photograph of your spread included!   A Distance Energy Healing session will be conducted as I perform the reading, if desired, as well.  Introductory price: $20.00 donation. 

Traditional Celtic Cross Spread with 3-card Messages From Your Angels Spread ~ Results carefully explained and emailed to you.  Text message with photograph of your spread included!   A Distance Energy Healing session will be conducted as I perform the reading, if desired, as well.  Introductory price: $30.00 donation.

Reading results will also include any intuitive visions/thoughts that come to me during your reading…

Payments can be made via PayPal to Princesslayla12345@yahoo.com – Please contact me FIRST, with your specific question at laylabeth@thezenmother.com – once I confirm receipt of your question, you will then be prompted to go forward with your donation.  Once I receive your donation, I will proceed with your reading.  You will have your results ASAP!  By inviting me to conduct a reading for you, you are acknowledging that card readings are “for entertainment purposes only” and that no refunds will be given.  That said, I take spiritual matters VERY seriously, and Tarot is simply another medium for spiritual guidance.  As a Life Coach and Ordained Minister, you might say Spiritual Guidance is kinda my job.  🙂

Soon, I will be offering additional Tarot / Numerology packages via my Etsy store!  (Coming soon!)  And the prices WILL go up…eventually.  I will update this blog when these prices are no longer valid.  For now, this price point and these offerings feel right to me.  Thank you, and blessings for allowing me to be a part of this journey, with you.

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The Path of the Empath ~ Vol. 1

Or subtitled as “Why I can no longer watch MMA fights because that kick in the spleen hurts too much”…

I guess I was always this way, but never really noticed as much, because when you are the way you are, you know no different.

Then, life happened.  Things changed.  But I didn’t seem to notice…

Once in a while, the way a person in a coma will, I stirred. I had those moments of clarity.  I felt like I was awake…but as it was, I was not.  It was sometimes like a nightmare – where you think you’re awake, but NO ONE can hear you if you try to call out.

I remember after IT came back.  I hadn’t had time to notice.  I had recently given birth.  For the second time.  100% natural, no drugs, no nothing.  And yes, even as a pro natural childbirth advocate, I will admit…THAT hurt like HELL.  But as quickly as it ravaged me, it was over.  And I felt fine. I was alright.

Except for one thing…no one told me that this whole breastfeeding thing was going to hurt WORSE.  Worse than the actual childbirth!

Oh, but it did.

And I was ready to throw in the proverbial towel.

So, I sat my sore, sad, nursing BUTT on the couch (no where else I could stand the pain of nursing, other than my bed) and watched TV.  My surfer/MMA fighting hubby liked to watch things like Spike TV, and we watched one hapless dude after another get the crap kicked out of him, and with every kick, punch and wipe out, I cringed.  And flinched.  And literally shed tears of pain.

I could not figure out what the heck was happening…but then I remembered.  I recalled that I’d had moments of clarity before, but quickly put them aside.  I recalled that I had to be physically removed from the theater when “Jesus of Nazareth” was being shown – those spears being driven into His sides…it was more than I could handle.

I had once felt “things.”  I never knew any different.  And now, I was feeling them again.

…and that was just the beginning…or RE-beginning, as it was.

It’s kind of cool, really…if I can keep it in check, I can sit back and feel what is going on around me.  But if I’m having an…shall-I-say, emotional moment , it overtakes me.  I am reduced to a sobbing, wobbly mess.  I WANT to express myself differently, but I just can’t.

I guess, the psychiatric community would have a hay-day with me…

So, after several years, many crazy life experiences involving much blood, sweat and tears, and a whole lot of research, I have learned how to handle the Empath side of things.  I have also learned that my husband AND daughter (and a whole slew of friends and family) are also Empaths.  (I know…the word sounds rather…Star Trek-ish.  I get that.)

But it’s not SciFi.  It’s how I go through life.  And this is just the first in a series of confessionals and peeks into the mind of your ordinary, average (thank you, Joe Walsh!) Empath.

Blessings, Brothers & Sisters.

And now, you know.  ❤

A Message for fellow Indigo Children ~

 The following is a post I penned and shared on one of my many FaceBook groups.  I felt divinely inspired to help spread the word about the emergence of Indigo, Crystal, Rainbow Children as well as Star Seeds or Star Children.  

We are here, we are awake, and now it’s time to wake up the rest of the world.  Blessed be!

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~ A Message to my Indigo Brothers and Sisters  ~

Welcome fellow Indigos!  We’re all grown up now, but we’re still…Indigos.

Now, you may not know what I mean when I call you an Indigo, but chances are, you do.  If not, though, since I fancy myself a teacher of sorts, I shall explain.

What is an Indigo a/k/a “Indigo Child”? 

According to Doreen Virtue, a foremost expert on Indigo, Crystal and Rainbow children, Indigo children are called such because of their auras:  “Indigo Children have a lot of indigo blue in their auras. This is the color of the ‘third eye chakra,’ which is an energy center inside the head located between the two eyebrows. This chakra regulates clairvoyance, or the ability to see energy, visions and spirits.”

Do a quick internet search on Indigo children and you will find that the biological ages of supposed Indigo children vary from site to site, and page to page.  Some pages say that the Indigo generation is, at most, age 25 or so.  In reality, the Indigos seem to be anywhere from people who are in their mid twenties to the forties.  With a few “early” (older) Indigos thrown in for good measure, of course.

Just for your information, the generation that came after the Indigos were the Crystal children.  Some sites have Crystals as being teenagers now, possibly up to their late twenties.  There are, however, examples of early Crystals, too – Ascended Master Jesus Christ is known in some circles, as being THE earliest Crystal Child ever spoken about in history.

Rainbow children are the generation immediately following Crystals.  They are the newest, most recent generation.  They are new souls to this realm – never having incarnated before, on the earthly plane.

In addition to Indigos, Crystals and Rainbows, there are also Starseeds/Star children and “Cusp” children, who show signs of being both Indigo/Crystal, or Crystal/Rainbow.  For more info on all of these different generations of lightworking “children,” Doreen Virtue’s website, angeltherapy.com is a wonderful source.

In the meantime, we’re here to discuss Indigos, and chances are, if you are reading this, YOU are an Indigo child!  And should you need confirmation, here are some tell-tale traits of Indigos:

Do you feel like you were born with a “mission”?

Do you know when someone is being dishonest?

Do you struggle with “authority”?

If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, there is a good chance that you are indeed, an Indigo child.  And we, as Indigos, were brought here for a REASON.

In case you hadn’t noticed, (ha, that’s funny!) there is worldwide crisis occurring even as you read this.  A MASSIVE shift in global consciousness is about to happen.  No, no, I’m not talking Mayan Prophecy (we’ll save that for later) but I am confirming what most of us already knew.  Stuff’s about ready to hit the fan, and you were called in to help.

So, what can you do?

The most important thing (in my humble opinion) that an Indigo can do is LIVE YOUR DHARMA.  No, no – I won’t go all Buddhist, just yet, but by “living your dharma,” what I am basically saying is DO WHAT YOU CAME HERE TO DO.  And somewhere DEEP down, you know what that is.

Maybe it’s time for a little introspection…what DID you come here to do?  What resonates with you?  Why do you feel you chose to incarnate at this particular time in history?  Once you have those answers, or even just the innate desire to HAVE the answers, you are on the right path.  If you can take it a step further and know, deep within your very being, what you came here to do, then there is no excuse NOT to act on it.  In all truthfulness, it very well might involve major life changes.  Changing jobs, relocating, etc.  And yes, “they,” whoever “they” are, probably WILL tell you that you’re crazy.  But like in the voice of “early” Indigo (I am almost POSITIVE of this) Jim Morrison, THE TIME TO HESITATE IS THROUGH.

THIS is that wake-up call that you might have “joked” that you’ve been waiting for.

Think of yourself as a sleeper cell who has been waiting months, years, decades, even, for the call to action.  THIS is that call.

Time is fleeting, Brothers and Sisters, but we need not panic.  Everyone ELSE on the planet is panicking – just turn on the evening news, and that becomes obvious.  We are the ones that have been entrusted to, for lack of a better term, SAVE THE PLANET!  Do we really want crazy, jabbering, panic junkies doing things ‘round these parts, or do we want to relieve them of their duties, send them back to their reality TV programs, fast food and routine vaccinations, and take matters (BACK!) into our own hands?  I know what I’m going to do.

Will you join me?

I’ll leave you with the words of  John F. Kennedy, Jr:  “There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction.”

We can afford to be inactive, no more, so I ask again…

…will you join me? 

Namaste, Brothers and Sisters.  Until, next time…

Angelic healing: My story

A little back story first…

Just over a year ago, a very dear friend of mine – someone who I “met,” in this life on MySpace, but have known many lives over – shared her gift of Angel Light healing with me.  She mentored me for a few weeks before actually attuning me to the modality, (a little bit different than typical Reiki and Reiki-style attunements) as I burned a white candle and spoke with her over the phone, from my California bedroom where I could literally hear the ocean through the walls.

As we all know, “life happens”  and a few weeks later, my family and I moved from our humble California beach bungalow, to a palatial home in San Antonio, Texas.  My husband and I had every intention of carrying on with our healthy and spiritual lifestyles once we were settled, and for a while, we did!  Some great things happened for us in San Antonio…he achieved a very well-respected certification in the health and fitness industry, and I became Yoga certified–something I had wanted for a long time.  (I also finished up my Clinical Hypnosis and Life Coaching training and certifications.)  We both got jobs at the gym we had been working out at, and things seemed to be going okay, in spite of us all desperately missing the ocean.  Our daughter became involved in ballet, and we were able to get to know one of my husband’s aunts.  Things seemed to be stable…

…it wasn’t long, however, before it became painfully obvious that, in spite of our jobs in the health and fitness industry, we really did NOT “fit in” here.  We are earthy, free-spirited, tribal minded people who support human liberties, extended breastfeeding, no (or delayed/selective) vaccinations…we’re opposed to big government, big pharma, big corporations, “The Man,” and the likes.  I am a “veganesque” vegetarian, my husband is a pescatarian, and our daughter, who WILL eat “some” meat, will let you know, however, that she very much opposes eating “dead animals.”  At four years old, she is opposed, also to leather clothing and furniture.

Long-story-short, trying to fit these square pegs in round holes took its toll on us, and our marriage began to suffer.  Our health deteriorated.  We slipped away from the few things that truly meant something to us, and basically barricaded ourselves in this large Texas mansion, and vowed to find a way to make it back to “our tribe.”  It was during this time that my Angels began to call to me – I was even visited by one.  (See here for that particular story.)

They imparted to me the almost desperate desire to know more.  So, I started reading all I could about angels and different styles of angel healing and therapies.  I knew that this shouldn’t be a difficult task for me, not only as an official “Angel Light” (Thanks to Isla‘s attunement) but also as someone, who as a CHILD spoke incessantly about angels and have been blessed with some amazing spiritual gifts.

Most recently, after doing angel readings for myself and my daughter, I found out some very shocking, (and relevant, yet not surprising) facts about who my particular guardians are, and who hers are.

After the readings, something very amazing happened in our home…my husband and I “jokingly” refer to our daughter as “Fire Starter” for her astounding abilities to manifest, almost instantly, things she wants.  We also learned a while back that she is more than likely a full-on Crystal Child, and we suspected Clairvoyant and Telepathic abilities.  Since we started working with our angels, her abilities have become even more obvious.  We fully believe this is her spiritual gift, and we intend to foster it.

I won’t say that ALL is perfect in our home right now.  We are still, very much, unhappy with our current location, but are working faithfully on our spirituality, and marriage.  I am pleased to say, that we have indeed, rekindled the flame that drew us together in the first place, and that we have also started counseling with Sunyata Satchitananda, an amazing healer, himself.

Whenever I start to feel doubt, or concern, or apprehension…I now know, that I am not alone, no matter how alone I might feel.  My angels have always been with me, and always will be.  YOURS are, too.

For those interested, I would be happy to help YOU connect with YOUR angels, as well.  I can also offer Angel Healing sessions, either in person, or via distance.  Please email me at: laylabeth@thezenmother.com for more information.  Your angels are there, waiting to connect with you.  All you have to do is be open to them.

~Namaste~

Test Project: Do YOU want Life Coaching? Now is Your Chance!

Since I am relatively new to the Life Coaching profession, I have decided to kick the Fall season off with a month of services, for those who want / need them and don’t want to pay an  exorbitant hourly fee.

(Some coaches charge upwards of $100.00/hour!)

I can’t say that I won’t, someday, charge that, for certain coaching services, but for now, while I am new and looking for feedback, I am offering my services for much, much less.

Starting Monday September 26, (and ending Monday October 31) you can receive select coaching services from me for DONATIONS ONLY*! Whatever you CAN pay or feel you SHOULD pay, well, that’s what you pay!

This will entitle you to the following:
Electronic communications/support from me (via FaceBook, Twitter &/or email) a minimum of 4x/week.  We will check in with each other, and I will provide support, motivation, advice and “homework” to you during these communications.
I will also make myself available for up to two (15-20 minute) phone calls with you, for person-to-person contact, and customized relaxation/visualization sessions.  

For those who donate* $25.00+ I will offer Text Messaging support in addition to the above.  🙂  For $50.00+ I will add up to two more phone calls (once weekly) to your coaching “package.”

At the end of the month, I will email you a questionnaire about the service you received from me, which will benefit me greatly as I grow into the coach I wish to become…so, as you can see, this “special” will be beneficial to YOU as well as ME.

If you’ve ever toyed with the idea of having a Life Coach, this is your opportunity!  There has never been a better time to take the steps to make positive and lasting changes in your life!

Carpe Diem!

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*Donations can be made via PayPal to Princesslayla12345@yahoo.com – Please contact me FIRST at laylabeth@thezenmother.com to let me know that you are donating.  I want to make sure we get started right away!  
ALSO – if monetary donation is NOT an option, “gifting” via my Amazon Wish List is another choice.  🙂

After your first email to me, I will get started customizing your package.  Include in the email your reasons for wanting Life Coaching and what you are hoping to accomplish in the next month.

Thank you!  I look forward to working with you!

 

THIS INTRODUCTORY SPECIAL HAS ENDED.  FOR THOSE INTERESTED IN LIFE COACHING SESSIONS, PLEASE EMAIL laylabeth@thezenmother.com FOR INFO.